Hey the Caregiver Speaks is back! I have been holding on to my thoughts as I along with you managed to learn to live with the circumstances of our lives today. The articles you will find are the understanding, I have gained in my own live thru. It is my desire to share them with you.
THE STRESS AND THE TRAUMA OF TODAY.
We are living in stressful, traumatic and yes, unbelievable times. I hear us saying out loud, “Never in my life-time, have I ever seen anything like this.” So, being what it is today, it’s not surprising we find ourselves reacting from panic, as all that we know is shut down. We worry in fear of its loss, while questioning ourselves, as to how will live without it. We’ve begun to live without it, while doing our best not to give in because we don’t. I ask. Tell me…” how are you coping?” “What are you doing to get you to the next day?” Meaning what are you doing, to get things done and keep yourself balanced, in order to get it done. Ways you use to personally cope. It’s the what we use to get up the next day to face its challenges. Those valleys, those rivers to cross not to mention those mountains to climb to reach the other side.
In a time of uncertainty as we do our day to day, we can and do forget to also see and feel, the joy that is still here. This joy reminds us to acknowledge our strength to overcome. Acknowledges our resilience, awakens our sense of hope, reminds us of our willingness,
our self -motivation to, “keep on, keeping on.” It gets us up the next day. Don’t let it go unnoticed. As we make it thru to the other side of this, it is important to understand what we did to get there. Recognizing our resilience, our “keep on keeping on.”
During this experience we are making decisions, from which we will then make choices. From our choices and how we act upon these decisions will show us the ways we cope. The solutions we come up with. The how we chose to follow thru on choices. The what we did to follow and its results. These are our ways we cope. We, then check what happened, to see what affect it had. We then use this information to plan our next step.
It’s also good to ask ourselves …how did doing it this way leave me feeling about myself and how you responded to the situation. Is not coping, just our response to life’s events, in order to manage their effect.
Coping is, at its bottom-line, the what it takes to maintain ourselves as we “keep on, keeping on.” It is our bottom line in self-care.
We are living thru the loss of what we knew and find ourselves having to come back into a world, unsure of what it has become or will become. We ask what will it mean for me? What will change for me? How will I have to change to meet its challenges? For us to answer these questions and be ready for this new world, it is important, to recognize “the what you have do as you get it done.”
Knowing of your strengths, knowing of your own personal and emotion coping skills, knowing what and who you can count on, will keep your mind “solution minded.” Exploring possible options about the here and now. Focused on what needs to be done right now. The why and how it needs to get done as we chose what to do as we recover.
This awareness gives us an answer of what we can do, when we stop to think. Meaning if one of your coping methods is say, to stop and breathe. Knowing this you will think to use it. Finding yourself stopping to take a breath, in the moment. Calming the anxiety, you have angst…anxiousness…used it to ease your momentary stress.
No, we have never lived thru anything like this. Unexpected, leaving us not truly knowing what to do about it and fearing the loss of the lifestyle we had. Questioning if we will get any of it back. I suggest you keep in mind as move into the unknown, how important it is to live it moment to moment, day to day. It’s that place we will find ourselves living trying to trust in our solutions, believing in the fact we shall recover, and our lives will return.
CHECK IN NEXT TIME: I WILL BE TELLING YOU ABOUT THE “IF” GAME